Koy123
sarNie OldFart
We’re are raised to freakin’ do everything so when us girls do something wrong, we get no credit for any of the other things we have done for the family. I really do hate this double standard.
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Also, with traditional Asian culture the girls have to marry to save face for the family and if you have a boyfriend or live with your boyfriend that's considered tainting the family's name while the men can have as many girls as they want.
Sometimes, it feels like the girl's main purpose in life is just to please the family never mind about their happiness. It's such a selfish culture when you think about. It's like, what can you do for the family not what can we do for each other.
Sometimes, it feels like the girl's main purpose in life is just to please the family never mind about their happiness. It's such a selfish culture when you think about. It's like, what can you do for the family not what can we do for each other.
Not sure what the stories are on the exes. But for Mek he said that she was talking trash about him to their friends. That was what he meant when he said she did this before. He said he was extremely misunderstood by their (her, his) friends because she lied to them about how he treated her.
I was reading a bunch of old interview and scandals last year that made me wonder if it was her (or her sides with her approvals) all along that kept leaking little rumors and blurred pictures here and there about Pope's sexual activities. Again im not on either sides since they're single adults, i just hate the hypocrisy. Also hate that he's always saying he's practicing in the moral boundaries (nai sin nai taam) or that he's spreading his charities (tam boon bang gun baang).
x0unerthanlater
`my dragon's blood is blue`
Muey Li honey, just let it gooooooooo, let it gooooooo, let it go. (There's NOTHING she can do to fix. It's best she stop giving interviews and just let this fade) Yes, it's irritating as heck that there are double standards but at this point there isn't much she can do to make herself look better. Unless, it was revealed that somehow Pope is a terrible guy and he beats women or something drastic along that nature.
Moral of the story here, do not save your chat history! Esp. if you're sexting. Almost all chat platforms allow you to delete history. It's fine that she told her friends verbally, but don't chat about it, leaving strong evidence. But watch out for wicked friends who'll record your convos too. This has happened before...
When I was younger I use to feel so oppressed by the whole, "men are holier than thou" lectures, I basically grew up trying my hardest to do everything better than my brothers. And I have accomplished most things, but not all since some things can't be done for the sheer fact that I'm not a man. lol Anyway, now my parents can't really throw their traditional hogwash my way. Most things about Asian traditions are archaic. There has been "some" improvement recently but not all that much. Girls are still raised with the mindset that she's to be married off and become another family's possession.
Moral of the story here, do not save your chat history! Esp. if you're sexting. Almost all chat platforms allow you to delete history. It's fine that she told her friends verbally, but don't chat about it, leaving strong evidence. But watch out for wicked friends who'll record your convos too. This has happened before...
When I was younger I use to feel so oppressed by the whole, "men are holier than thou" lectures, I basically grew up trying my hardest to do everything better than my brothers. And I have accomplished most things, but not all since some things can't be done for the sheer fact that I'm not a man. lol Anyway, now my parents can't really throw their traditional hogwash my way. Most things about Asian traditions are archaic. There has been "some" improvement recently but not all that much. Girls are still raised with the mindset that she's to be married off and become another family's possession.
Oh goodness I hate that whole “you are another family’s possession” bullsh*t that our asian culture has. It’s so stupid and irritating
x0unerthanlater
`my dragon's blood is blue`
Not unless you marry a non-Asian. No one can say anything!
I don't know if other Asian parents could tolerate me outsmarting them. Asian elders be thinking they can look down on you just because you're younger. Pffft. I just give them the eye right back.
Thanks for the summary @KitKat516. I didn't have the patience to sit through all the ramblings.
Gender inequality is a thing in every culture, not just Asians. Just shows up in different ways and degrees. Like the #Metoo thing exists for a reason.
But the saddest thing is I think women are harsher and more judgmental on other women than the men are sometimes. I mean the Thai stars fanclubs I see are usually 90% women.
Gender inequality is a thing in every culture, not just Asians. Just shows up in different ways and degrees. Like the #Metoo thing exists for a reason.
But the saddest thing is I think women are harsher and more judgmental on other women than the men are sometimes. I mean the Thai stars fanclubs I see are usually 90% women.
Yeah right. No my parents would never be let me marry anyone outside of my culture. It sucks but I have to tolerate it cause it’s either I choose the man or give up my family. I don’t think my parents would disown me up let’s just say our relationship would be very strained after that
Yeah it’s everywhere but I see it most prominent in Asian and Middle Eastern cultures.
x0unerthanlater
`my dragon's blood is blue`
My parents are pretty strict and traditional but they've never forbidden me from dating outside of the race. I dated my ex who was Puerto Rican for 8 yrs. They didn't 100% approve but they were okay as long as I was happy. Even said I should get married after dating that long.
I kind of threaten (as a child) that if they ever forced me to marry someone I didn't choose for myself I'd never see them again. And they knew I was serious because I was always mature for my age. Plus, being the only daughter among 4 sons, they could not NOT see me.
My parents are very traditional as well, especially in the dating/marriage department. They would never force me to marry anyone j didn’t want to but whoever I marry must be from our culture. I don’t have a problem with that, but the state that I’m in doesn’t really have a lot of people with the same culture as me so that’s the part that sucks.
that's what makes me loose respect to him(as a person). his hypocrite.Not sure what the stories are on the exes. But for Mek he said that she was talking trash about him to their friends. That was what he meant when he said she did this before. He said he was extremely misunderstood by their (her, his) friends because she lied to them about how he treated her.
I was reading a bunch of old interview and scandals last year that made me wonder if it was her (or her sides with her approvals) all along that kept leaking little rumors and blurred pictures here and there about Pope's sexual activities. Again im not on either sides since they're single adults, i just hate the hypocrisy. Also hate that he's always saying he's practicing in the moral boundaries (nai sin nai taam) or that he's spreading his charities (tam boon bang gun baang).
x0unerthanlater
`my dragon's blood is blue`
You better move girl! Gotta go out there and find that lost man. He's probably looking for you in his diverse state. Lol
On a serious note, that does suck to be in a state that's pretty limited in your type of guy.
mayag
sarNie Adult
Omggg I can relate so much!! I’m in the same boat. I can marry whoever I want but they have to be from the same culture as myself...which is impossible to find here in Canada. So the only option is for my parents to find someone. I don’t feel compatible with any of the guys they find because I’ve grown up outside my motherland my entire life and my perspective towards life is sooo different from theirs.
That’s the part that sucks. I’m a mixture of western and eastern values. Im too eastern for the men in America and I’m way too western for the men back in my motherland. It’s a struggle lol
Actually change that thought lol I live in California and there’s lots of people from my culture here. What I meant was the city I live in has no one from my culture. I live in so-cal near Vegas and they all live near San Francisco and the LA area
I’m too lazy to drive there though lolThat's why im dating a non Asian now. They dont care if you were married before or has a kid etc etc. I dated an asian after my divorce and omfg his parents and grandparents looked at me as if i was a disease.
roselovesice
방탄소년단 x Bangtan Sonyeondan x JiTaew
My parents are very traditional too but do I really look like I care if they disapprove of me dating outside of my race/ethnicity? No. I believe that as a grown adult, I can choose who I want to marry. There is a fine line between respecting your parents wish and doing what you want in life. Your parents are there to raise and support you, not control every area of your life. At the end of the day it's your life and happiness. You know yourself best. I'm sure this is common in every race but since we're speaking about Asian parents here, I'll say that 99% of the traditional parents are prone to forbid their child from date outside of their ethnicity. My parents were super against my sister marrying a white guy but they eventually came around. It really depends on the non-Asian person you're dating too. You really just have to break the ice. I don't believe that your parents will disown you. I think they're threatening you just to scare you so that you don't do it. If the person you choose to date is a great person with a good background, your parents will definitely come around. It will take time for them to accept the truth as it's not a "norm" for them and to be honest, it could probably because they're afraid of being judged by their relatives that they have a white son/daughter-in-law. It's so frown upon by old Asian people which is ridiculous. The world is so diverse now that people dating outside of their race is going to be a norm and very common. Just be open and don't limit yourself. Traditional Asian parents need to understand that other races are not bad but rather they have good people too. There's good and bad in every race. You can date someone of your own kind and your parents would still disapprove because it's not up to par with their expectations. He could be smart with a good job but if he's not skinny, like society says, then they''ll continue to say something like he's still not good enough. I've seen it happen so many times that it's just ridiculous. I understand the whole respecting your parents but really, it's not all worth it. At the end of the day it could be your own downfall. Anyways, date whoever y'all want whether in our out of your own kind.