What should I do?

lilo

sarNie Juvenile
I am in a 3 years relationship. I move in with him for almost a month. Within the month moving I had a a feeling that something was up. But I don't know how to confront him about my finding of him cheating. Any suggestions of confronting him?
 

maimyang

wishing on the same star, looking at the same moon
Hello, so sorry to hear that your boyfriend of 3 years is cheating. I’ve had my boyfriend also talk to another woman although he says she was just a friend. What I did when I found out was confront him immediately, say I found the messages of them talking, and tell him it was over. My boyfriend pleaded to not break up and I gave him another chance. It really affects my trust for him and now I’m wary but one more time and it’s over for sure. I always said I could never forgive a cheater, but I did forgive but I don’t forget really.

What I would do in your situation is similar to what I did. Just be upfront and say you caught him doing what he was and is doing. Please don’t be afraid; his cheating on you is wrong and cruel and hurtful. Your telling him straight up about the truth of his cheating is not cruel or shouldn’t make you feel like a bad person. Be angry! Show your hurt and sorrow! Show him you’re a strong woman and that you won’t tolerate being mistreated and not being respected by her man. I wish you well and would love to be updated!!
 

lilo

sarNie Juvenile
Hello, so sorry to hear that your boyfriend of 3 years is cheating. I’ve had my boyfriend also talk to another woman although he says she was just a friend. What I did when I found out was confront him immediately, say I found the messages of them talking, and tell him it was over. My boyfriend pleaded to not break up and I gave him another chance. It really affects my trust for him and now I’m wary but one more time and it’s over for sure. I always said I could never forgive a cheater, but I did forgive but I don’t forget really.

What I would do in your situation is similar to what I did. Just be upfront and say you caught him doing what he was and is doing. Please don’t be afraid; his cheating on you is wrong and cruel and hurtful. Your telling him straight up about the truth of his cheating is not cruel or shouldn’t make you feel like a bad person. Be angry! Show your hurt and sorrow! Show him you’re a strong woman and that you won’t tolerate being mistreated and not being respected by her man. I wish you well and would love to be updated!!
Thank you.
 

lilo

sarNie Juvenile
Its a gut feeling you know for a fact that I won't be able to save this relationship because he is straight lying to me. I had told him if he is seeing someone else let me know so I don't have to try in this relationship anymore.
 
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