well, i never got married or planned to. but if i were, i would just tell them straight. my mother and father left it open to me to decide. they say that whenever i ready, im ready. so it's didn't really matter how i tell them. but they always encourage me to tell them out straight like they encourage me to tell them if i'm dating anyone, even if someone they don't like, so that they will learn to like him. lol.