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Continue to strive for excellence and know that you always try your best. We can't control how our parent think of us with their over expectation. Just know that you try your best and that's all that matter ... the rest is up to them to decide. You can't always please everyone.

Aww... I'm sorry you feel that way. I had felt the same in my teen and early 20 yrs. I always feel that my parents always love my brothers more. I was the only one doing everything in the house. I'm glad my parents showed me tough love because it made me a stronger person. With family, it just takes time, we go through the phase. Be strong and patience with your family. They'll realized around one day.

Remember to always be the better person than they are. Show them love and kindness. I hope you the best.

There's a saying, what goes around, comes around, even for our beloved parents. It comes around a lot quicker than we think, too. I'm not wishing unpleasant things towards parents but what you reap is what you sow. That's reality. They may or may not realize it, but in the end, the boys they loved so much and fed with a golden spoon, will become selfish, unloving, uncaring, and heartless people.

I mean, how do they expect their sons to grow up, be a gentleman, and love his family in return, if those aren't the same values that are being taught to them versus the girls? I live from experience. So in a way, their unfair and ill treatment of you and all of the girls in the household is building you up to be a responsible, wise, kind, brave, and resilient person.

I love it when you're not supposed to exceed but people's mistreatment indirectly makes you. Keep your heart in the sky and smile. What you're doing today will repay you in the tomorrows to come, if it already hasn't done so by now, bit by bit. Seeing that you're still so young and wise tells me that what you've experienced has only made you stronger and better.

Sometimes, we can only love our parents but we can't always save them especially from what they've created with their own hands. Everyone has their own journey. Just do what they ask you for now. We don't have much time left with them anyway. When they're gone, even if we want them to yell at us or ask for favors, it won't happen anymore.

Cherish our times with them even if you're the only one treasuring those memories. In the end, let it not be you who has regrets. Love and love again. It may hurt for now but it's always the right answer, timelessly. Being kind never stopped us from living our lives. Please be well and happy!

Thanks ladies. I appreciate it. I am trying my best to be patient and the better person as it is a new day now. I'm still a bit salty about it but whatever. lol I love my brothers; my siblings we all love each other. We understand the ill-treatment about my parents give to us girls. My 2 younger brothers tend to help around more compare to my 3 older brothers.

They usually leave when things need to be done and then us girls and my 2 younger brothers are left to do everything. Even my married sisters would always have to come over to help because they love my parents enough to come back, but my parents don't even appreciate it one bit. We still get complaints left and right.

I just don't understand what my parents thinking and what's going through their head. They're so irrational. I just can't even with them. lol I want to build a relationship with them, but it's so hard with the way they talk. They're not good at talking and always giving me some sort of attitude when I try to have a conversation with them.

I don't know why they're so angry. Must be old age. lol jk All I could do is hope for the best for both our future. Okay, I'm done ranting. Haha! Sorry about that.

Could be that they expected too much .. and when that expectation is not met they're disappointed. Goal of happiness -- don't expect too much and that's what parent need to understand/know.

Sometimes, parents don't know how to love their children equally because they themselves never received any love or they may have received an unhealthy selfish type of love. A lot of the older generations have been through wars, departures, forced marriages, early marriages, culture shock, tough situations that have changed their lives, so the last thing on their minds is love for others.

They believe that to love others is to take away from them, which isn't true because you actually multiply your happiness when you give out love. A lot of parents may still be searching for their own identities and purpose in life. Even their own children may just be pure baggage and not necessarily a bond. We can't blame our parents for not loving us.

Everyone has a story, a selfish need, or a struggle, something we can't judge. Just because they're parents, doesn't make them wise enough to understand the emotional responsibilities and impact they have on the lives of their children. They're probably grown up physically but mind wise and heart wise, still a child themselves.

Thus, is probably why a lot of them are now living their lives as reckless teenagers because they never had a chance to or perhaps never grew out of it. In the end, we can only do our part, love them, care for them, fulfill their requests, make them happy, and in return, seeing them happy, makes us happy. You're wise, they're not, even at their age, so just be forgiving and move on.

It's like that one Thai saying, "Don't yell at a drunk and be mad at a crazy." If our parents don't know how to love or refuse to love us in a healthy way, it is a reflection of them, not you, even if you're the one receiving the short end of the stick, for now. But because you know how to love healthily, count that as a blessing because quite frankly, you could have been just as blind and closed hearted as them.

Once you've seen the light, share that light and never question why it's you who has to carry the heavier burden. To make a change in this world even within our small families, it's going to be tough, but worth it. You'd rather be the enlightened one than to enter a vicious cycle of misery like them. We will never fully understand why people are the way they are, we just have to accept them.

But if it gets too heavy, it's not wrong to leave. As long as you've done your best and absolutely have no regrets, you make your own door to happiness, with or without them.