marriage is a big step, and once in it, it's hard to get out.....especially in hmong culture like this.....so, i second what everyone else says.....get to know each other.....if he really likes you, he'll understand your concerns and wait for you....guys like that don't come too often and are rare to find, but if you build a solid relationship first, it might not be too awkward when you do get married....
wow...your life is kinda like a movie huh???? hahahha.....well, take into consideration what your heart along with what your family says.....adults are wise and they know a lot more than us kids (sometimes....) but it's what inside the heart that counts too.....
good luck gurl....whatever happens, wish you all the best luck!