I know that their expectations are high, but think about it. Everyone wants the best for their child however that best is defined differently by everyone. Therefore, your best might not be their best. In my opinion I say that some parents try to find that most perfect wife for thir sons but in the end, it is still not good enough. like the hmong saying "twb xaiv kawg kaus nws twb tsis zoo es yog hais tias twb tsis xaiv kiag no, hos yuav zoo li cas. So i don't blame them for choosing. However, in most cases i don't blame it on only the parents. I will have to blame it on the nyab too. Why? one hand doesn't make noise. I do understand that there are exceptions to everything.