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sarNie Egg
UPDATE: 6-23-09
I took a day away from my usual life and measured myself, and I come to realize that I am worse than before. I act like I've become the daughter-in-law in the house. I cook, clean, and give my friend a back massage and pretty much I do every dANg thing he tells me to. I try so hard to say NO and when I try to stand up for myself, I end up losing because its so hard for me to say NO to anyone in general. Sometimes he makes me do it around his parents and I feel so embarrassed. Yes, I would like to do it, but only when your parents are not around.
ALSO there were days when I dont come around for 3-4 days and his parents would ask him why I havent been around. When I do come over the following day or so the mother would ask me if her son was being mean to me and etc. I would tell her I been so busy I dont have time to come around so often anymore like I used to. I would give her the same excuse over and over. I been listening to everyone here advices so I been distant from the family. But every father and mother's day I was in charge to cook the meals. Sometimes when his parents come home late and have to work overtime he would call me to come over and go to the store. ONLY when we get to the store that he tells me I need to help him cook dinner. I mean its nice to use my talent when I can, butta I dont want to act like I am dating their son or like I am the daughter in law. I mother has given me names of some girls she would like to have as daughter in law and my name was not there. I feel rather odd that she shares alot of things with me. The dad rarely talks to me still; except on Father's day when I cranked out a father's day meal for his family. I was so tired out and the father thanked me.
Ive taken up excercising, working extra late and hang less with my friend but when I usually do chill with him, I am always walking around the house like I am his wife; doing this and that. I really need to stop myself... I am trying so hard... HELP ME... Anymore advices... Thanks! I dont know if his parents like me or not, but they do enjoy my cooking! I been cooking alot of the things I made for them often when I am at his house. The mother been teaching me how to do things around the house too. I dont know. I feel so ashamed and embarrassed when I go to the house. I really gotta stop myself. Anyones got advices to help me. THanks in ADVANCE!
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Hmong-wise... How do I know if your friend's parents dislike you? Or maybe perhaps like you? My hmong guy friend and I hang out alot... Almost every weekend and sometimes one or two times during the weekdays. I see his parents ALOT too, and they say "HI" to me too... I have known my friend for 3 years now, and his parent have gotten used to me coming around in the last 2 years. His parents dont talk to me much, just a simple HI and when they are eating they invite me to come eat. Other then that, zippo, nada, blank! Sometimes I have a feeling that his parents dont really like me because they dont talk to me. I can be at their house ALL day but no word from them.
2nd issue... I do hear his parents nag my friend several times about when will he decide to settle down and start a family. My friend is a player, or so I consider him to be. For as long as I have known him, there is only ONE girl (Izzo) other then me and Marcy that he is talking to. Marcy and him has always been HS friends, he likes her, and she likes him but they wont get together. Then there's me, always with him and most people think we are dating but were not. JUST GOOD FRIENDS. and then Izzo he's talking to, she is determined to marry him, but he tells me and Marcy she's just a friend.
My friend rarely hangs out with Marcy, usually with me, and talks to Izzo around me alot. Sometimes I wonder... There was this one day I happened to be at their house when the mom made dinner. Apparently I was the last to finish eating and his parent finished eating and went upstairs to the bed. My friend just went downstairs to play his Wii game. Izzo called him and I did ask him kindly if he would do the dishes because its not my house. He kept telling me that I should just do it because they fed me. Anyways I decided to do it. I finished with all the dishes and started to put things away when I walked over to him and asked where to put the leftover food and what to cover them with. He was on the phone with Izzo and when she calls I can't talk because she will blow things out of poportion. I was trying to communicate with him by whispering back and forth but I couldnt understand a single thing he said to me. With Izzo talking like there was no tomorrow he put her on MUTE! While she was still blabbering on and he muted her on the phone my friend and started to YELL at me. Saying that I was doing all this on purpose, acting dumb. His mom who was in the bathroom heard him yell at me rudely... the mom then said for me to leave it alone and she will come do it... I felt so embarrassed... My friend and I usually joke around bitching at one another, just NEVER around his parents. After that I felt even more ODD and weird around them... His parents have heard more then a few times when he has yelled at me for being dumb around his house... I cant help it if I dont know where things are... Sometime I wonder if his parent do think we are a couple because of the stupid things that we both do around the house...
His mom did ask about my family too, but seriously his mom is part of my family thru marriage so she just saying to start something with me perhaps... I dont know... But I am starting to think that his parents dont like me around their son... He's not talking to the girls that his parents picked out for him and nor is he wanting to settle down... Is it because of ME?
I took a day away from my usual life and measured myself, and I come to realize that I am worse than before. I act like I've become the daughter-in-law in the house. I cook, clean, and give my friend a back massage and pretty much I do every dANg thing he tells me to. I try so hard to say NO and when I try to stand up for myself, I end up losing because its so hard for me to say NO to anyone in general. Sometimes he makes me do it around his parents and I feel so embarrassed. Yes, I would like to do it, but only when your parents are not around.
ALSO there were days when I dont come around for 3-4 days and his parents would ask him why I havent been around. When I do come over the following day or so the mother would ask me if her son was being mean to me and etc. I would tell her I been so busy I dont have time to come around so often anymore like I used to. I would give her the same excuse over and over. I been listening to everyone here advices so I been distant from the family. But every father and mother's day I was in charge to cook the meals. Sometimes when his parents come home late and have to work overtime he would call me to come over and go to the store. ONLY when we get to the store that he tells me I need to help him cook dinner. I mean its nice to use my talent when I can, butta I dont want to act like I am dating their son or like I am the daughter in law. I mother has given me names of some girls she would like to have as daughter in law and my name was not there. I feel rather odd that she shares alot of things with me. The dad rarely talks to me still; except on Father's day when I cranked out a father's day meal for his family. I was so tired out and the father thanked me.
Ive taken up excercising, working extra late and hang less with my friend but when I usually do chill with him, I am always walking around the house like I am his wife; doing this and that. I really need to stop myself... I am trying so hard... HELP ME... Anymore advices... Thanks! I dont know if his parents like me or not, but they do enjoy my cooking! I been cooking alot of the things I made for them often when I am at his house. The mother been teaching me how to do things around the house too. I dont know. I feel so ashamed and embarrassed when I go to the house. I really gotta stop myself. Anyones got advices to help me. THanks in ADVANCE!
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Hmong-wise... How do I know if your friend's parents dislike you? Or maybe perhaps like you? My hmong guy friend and I hang out alot... Almost every weekend and sometimes one or two times during the weekdays. I see his parents ALOT too, and they say "HI" to me too... I have known my friend for 3 years now, and his parent have gotten used to me coming around in the last 2 years. His parents dont talk to me much, just a simple HI and when they are eating they invite me to come eat. Other then that, zippo, nada, blank! Sometimes I have a feeling that his parents dont really like me because they dont talk to me. I can be at their house ALL day but no word from them.
2nd issue... I do hear his parents nag my friend several times about when will he decide to settle down and start a family. My friend is a player, or so I consider him to be. For as long as I have known him, there is only ONE girl (Izzo) other then me and Marcy that he is talking to. Marcy and him has always been HS friends, he likes her, and she likes him but they wont get together. Then there's me, always with him and most people think we are dating but were not. JUST GOOD FRIENDS. and then Izzo he's talking to, she is determined to marry him, but he tells me and Marcy she's just a friend.
My friend rarely hangs out with Marcy, usually with me, and talks to Izzo around me alot. Sometimes I wonder... There was this one day I happened to be at their house when the mom made dinner. Apparently I was the last to finish eating and his parent finished eating and went upstairs to the bed. My friend just went downstairs to play his Wii game. Izzo called him and I did ask him kindly if he would do the dishes because its not my house. He kept telling me that I should just do it because they fed me. Anyways I decided to do it. I finished with all the dishes and started to put things away when I walked over to him and asked where to put the leftover food and what to cover them with. He was on the phone with Izzo and when she calls I can't talk because she will blow things out of poportion. I was trying to communicate with him by whispering back and forth but I couldnt understand a single thing he said to me. With Izzo talking like there was no tomorrow he put her on MUTE! While she was still blabbering on and he muted her on the phone my friend and started to YELL at me. Saying that I was doing all this on purpose, acting dumb. His mom who was in the bathroom heard him yell at me rudely... the mom then said for me to leave it alone and she will come do it... I felt so embarrassed... My friend and I usually joke around bitching at one another, just NEVER around his parents. After that I felt even more ODD and weird around them... His parents have heard more then a few times when he has yelled at me for being dumb around his house... I cant help it if I dont know where things are... Sometime I wonder if his parent do think we are a couple because of the stupid things that we both do around the house...
His mom did ask about my family too, but seriously his mom is part of my family thru marriage so she just saying to start something with me perhaps... I dont know... But I am starting to think that his parents dont like me around their son... He's not talking to the girls that his parents picked out for him and nor is he wanting to settle down... Is it because of ME?
