In need of some advise..don't know what to do..i read some of the advises before and i thought that Sarnies give good ones out so i hope u gal and guys could help me.
Here it goes..
My boyfriend and I have been together for three years going on four in feb and we have two kids together, but since we got together i never felt that he ever loved me. It seems that it's always been a one sided thing. Before we got together there was this other girl, she's my friend and i knew he like her but she had a boyfriend. and she didn't have any feeling back towards my bf, so he got with me, everyone said me and my friend look alike, act alike, if he couldn't have her, he as well just have me. for three years i felt that i had always been his second choice, cuz the way he treated me and the way he treated her is so different. he would cater to all her needs, but with me he would just ignore me. before we got together i would see him bring food for her, anything she wanted he would buy for her, he showed her that he was interested, but for me all i see him do is complain. i don't want to sound that i am not confident enough in my relationship with him, but the way he makes me feel, that he doesn't love me. I asked him and he says yes, but the way he says it, no feeling. when i hug him or kiss him he would push me away, i am always the one showing the affection, he never kiss me on the cheeks, never hug me out of the blue. when i asked him why he tells me that he's not one to show. i don't really care if he shows it or not, but once in a while reassure me that you want to be with me, but i never even get it. i know he works hard and when he comes home, he's tired i know that ass well, i am also tired taking care of two kids. a two year and a nine month. he doesn't get that i am tired, he thinks it a piece of cake taking two kids. so when ever i say i'm tired he tells me that i don't do anything but take care of the kids how can i be tired. he makes it seem that he doesn't appreciate me. i try to make his life easy when he comes home. never a kiss hi or how was your day. when he comes home from work he would play with the kids for about 30 to an hour and then he would be in front of a comp or play vdo games. he would ignore me most of the night. three years he hardly talk to me, we only talk when we have too, if we don't have too its just silent. how could u be in a relationship when the other person hardly talk to you or even look at you.
i don't know what to do, i want out. i don't want to be in a one side relationship. but i don't want to break my kids family apart either. their to young, but if i stay i am only hurting myself more.
so confuse.
Here it goes..
My boyfriend and I have been together for three years going on four in feb and we have two kids together, but since we got together i never felt that he ever loved me. It seems that it's always been a one sided thing. Before we got together there was this other girl, she's my friend and i knew he like her but she had a boyfriend. and she didn't have any feeling back towards my bf, so he got with me, everyone said me and my friend look alike, act alike, if he couldn't have her, he as well just have me. for three years i felt that i had always been his second choice, cuz the way he treated me and the way he treated her is so different. he would cater to all her needs, but with me he would just ignore me. before we got together i would see him bring food for her, anything she wanted he would buy for her, he showed her that he was interested, but for me all i see him do is complain. i don't want to sound that i am not confident enough in my relationship with him, but the way he makes me feel, that he doesn't love me. I asked him and he says yes, but the way he says it, no feeling. when i hug him or kiss him he would push me away, i am always the one showing the affection, he never kiss me on the cheeks, never hug me out of the blue. when i asked him why he tells me that he's not one to show. i don't really care if he shows it or not, but once in a while reassure me that you want to be with me, but i never even get it. i know he works hard and when he comes home, he's tired i know that ass well, i am also tired taking care of two kids. a two year and a nine month. he doesn't get that i am tired, he thinks it a piece of cake taking two kids. so when ever i say i'm tired he tells me that i don't do anything but take care of the kids how can i be tired. he makes it seem that he doesn't appreciate me. i try to make his life easy when he comes home. never a kiss hi or how was your day. when he comes home from work he would play with the kids for about 30 to an hour and then he would be in front of a comp or play vdo games. he would ignore me most of the night. three years he hardly talk to me, we only talk when we have too, if we don't have too its just silent. how could u be in a relationship when the other person hardly talk to you or even look at you.
i don't know what to do, i want out. i don't want to be in a one side relationship. but i don't want to break my kids family apart either. their to young, but if i stay i am only hurting myself more.
so confuse.