Hey everyone,
I was just wondering how you handle relatives asking for money? I'm somewhat afraid that it's going to turn into a whole second generation thing with my family. I'm worried that my mom's family will turn to me for money and their children will continue to behave that way to my children. When I got a job at the bank my mom asked for money for her brother- i told her no and she was like 'If you don't give it to me they'll think I'm lying'. That made me angry because I have student loans, car loan and rent to pay and it's like she cares more about her relatives in Laos instead of me. I don't want it to be that way and have already told my mom I'm not giving her relatives any money since all they do is sit around and act like they're rich. I told her that if they wanted to go to school or do a vocational training program then I would help pay for it but I'm not going to give them money to sit around and do nothing.
I was just wondering how you handle relatives asking for money? I'm somewhat afraid that it's going to turn into a whole second generation thing with my family. I'm worried that my mom's family will turn to me for money and their children will continue to behave that way to my children. When I got a job at the bank my mom asked for money for her brother- i told her no and she was like 'If you don't give it to me they'll think I'm lying'. That made me angry because I have student loans, car loan and rent to pay and it's like she cares more about her relatives in Laos instead of me. I don't want it to be that way and have already told my mom I'm not giving her relatives any money since all they do is sit around and act like they're rich. I told her that if they wanted to go to school or do a vocational training program then I would help pay for it but I'm not going to give them money to sit around and do nothing.