wow .. what an awesome conversation in here .. mmmm, i feel your thoughts however, i just ignore it and do shopping with my younger sibling who shared the same view as me. Anyway, don't marry just b/c you feel like you have too .. My age is close to you and i'm still here, working hard, trying to open up my own business and trying to live the dream i hope to have. I feel it is better to get out of that uncomfortable feeling and move on to create some comfort in your life instead of seeking out for trouble. I don't know .. i understand guy from oversea are educated too but there's just something there that can't be trust regardless of how trusting they sounds. Like you, sometime i wonder is it b/c of my past life that's why i'm stuck in this kind of atmosphere too. However, i still stood tall and walk forward .. i think considering of how society are at the moment, it's better to be alone -- supporting yourself and your family, waiting for that one man to come into your life. I'm at the point where marriage is out of the question -- i just want to do all the things i want to do, live the life i dream to have and if love comes, i'll take it and if not then it's okay. Sometime, living alone is better than having someone there to be obligated too. Marriage life isn't all that great (witnessing sibling & their spouse issues - mother in law, partying, hanging out with friend too much - mishandling children, neither want to look after the kids lol) too much!