Habit problems gambling

little22

sarNie Juvenile
Anybody? I have a bad habit gambling. I can't save. I work for free for 25+ years. My husband take care of all house bills. Without him I be homeless. I feel like I don't deserve him or in a relationship. Gambling is fun but at same time when broke makes it bad feeling, no energy to do anything. Im not a mad person to others even when i lost. We have no kids I'm in my 30s. In a way it prevents me from having kids. I feel like i can't provide. Playing seems more important than Start a family.
 

sarN

sarNie Granny
you go casino ? does your husband gamble ? well, try not to be alone , be sure you are with someone or just spend time with your hubby on your free time and tell whom ever with you at the time to be ur voice of reason when u have the urge to go gamble , that person should stop you . It could be out of boredom , gamble is fun , therefore try to find other interest and invest your time in it , like ex: cooking , playing phone/computer game , join the gym , reading , watching tv drama lol , fishing , ect . If you can't do none of above , then limited yourself to gambling 1x a month or os . OR just move away . When the eye no see the heart will not desire it .
 

maimyang

If only Charlie
Oh my!Gambling can get addicting! It keeps drawing you in,, there are free drinks, no clocks, even free rides to the casino is available! Plus all those noise Ding! when winning and those bright flashing lights! And those waitresses in those tight short shorts!! Everything is so you are drawn to coming back!! Seriously if it is too good to be true, it must be so..

I used to go to the casino too until recently my sister found out I was going because I’d been using money out of my line of credit and my credit score came back so bad! The one thing that has stopped me? My sister said, “If you ever go again without me to be the responsible person there with you,, I’m not calling you my sister anymore.”” She said I can go once in a while just for fun and to eat at the buffet, but if I go a couple times a week, that she wouldn’t acknowledge me anymore! So I have since stopped going because of course I do not want to lose my dearest sister!!! I think sometimes you need someone who is Very stern , who loves you and wants the best for you, to stop you from continuing a bad habit. Let them put some sense into you! I hope you have someone like that whom you can talk to about your gambling problem and will limit your going to the casino because that has helped me.

Also my sister said, “when you do win, the majority goes right back into the machine!” You keep thinking that you’re going to win again so you keep playing and going back for More. There is the possibility you won’t be satisfied with what you have and greed will take over.

I also have responsibilities like I got a new car yesterday.. I love my car and want to keep it, so no money equals my car being taken away from me! I guess sometimes having responsibilities is a good thing ;)

All the best to you and hope you can Fight gambling!!! KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR MIND AND YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK!
 
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little22

sarNie Juvenile
you go casino ? does your husband gamble ? well, try not to be alone , be sure you are with someone or just spend time with your hubby on your free time and tell whom ever with you at the time to be ur voice of reason when u have the urge to go gamble , that person should stop you . It could be out of boredom , gamble is fun , therefore try to find other interest and invest your time in it , like ex: cooking , playing phone/computer game , join the gym , reading , watching tv drama lol , fishing , ect . If you can't do none of above , then limited yourself to gambling 1x a month or os . OR just move away . When the eye no see the heart will not desire it .
No he doesn't play thats why I feel like I'm the bad one. As for people stopping. I dont like it and nor it works. But I really have to tell myself to slow slow down. The last 6 years been bad pay check Everytime I go to casino. Before that I can save putting a big chunk on down payment a house. What asian family don't gamble?
 

sarN

sarNie Granny
True. Most Asian family I know gamble hahaha . My parent love the casino, I would take them on holiday , in the past when I was younger they do gamble bad tho and I promise myself I will make more money than they will ever have in a life time lol. Now, my parent doesn't have any bill b/c I took care of everything , they gamble with their working money and I no longer lecture them about saving and their retirement plan ect b/c they enjoy gambling and they are most happiest when at casino *sigh* . My parent are lucky to have kids paying all their bill and provide for them or else they be homeless like what you said about your husband being the breadwinner. Sometimes I do feel they are taking advantage over me but I love them , therefore I just endure it since they seen so happy at the casino , that's probably how your husband felt too. My situation is different tho, my parents doesn't have any more goal in life beside growing old but you & your husband are still young , therefore, if possible limited your gambling days and be considered of him , think about the hardship and the long hours ya put in to get that pay check , invest your money for the future and take vacation together. Life is very short , shouldn't drown yourself in a life of gambling , there lots more enjoyment thing to do out there . I hope you resolve your addiction before it consume you completely and end up losing more in life than you had wanted . Good luck girl.
 

x0unerthanlater

คนไม่รักดี
I do not, for the life of me, know how to gamble. I have zero knowledge of how to play cards. The best I can do is Uno. I know there are other forms of gambling too. I don't dab into any of that. Those poisonous vices are tempting though. Also, I am an idiot when it comes to those slot machines. My SIL tried to teach me how to play it once, but that didn't work out so well. I have the mindset of thinking that money in my pocket is better than it going to someone else's wallet. Money is money. It isn't going to rot if you just leave it there. So why feel the need to spend/waste it? I know that ppl who are addicted to gambling think that if they just hit 1 jackpot, then all is worth it. No. That's where they mess up. Picture yourself working your ass off, only to have money fly out of your pockets for no reason. It isn't coming back. Gamblers think it'll fly back or something...

I've learned from a very young age, on how to save. I've never witness my parents gambling. Thank buddha they left that behind before I was old enough to realize what it was. How I save: I have mentally trained myself into thinking I am forever broke. For every paycheck period, I deduct the bill costs for that cycle. The rest I save. The only bit I spend is any amount under $100. The things I spend on are also carefully decided. I buy what I NEED FIRST. All the necessities etc. Then whatever is left, if I feel like splurging, I spend it on things I WANT.
 

maimyang

If only Charlie
For me It’s really hard to stop gambling once I’ve hit a jackpot!! I want to beat the amount that I made in that jackpot, so I keep going back. The biggest jackpot I’ve won is $1,300.. now I’m aiming for that $8,000. :sad6::mad:

And I’m also learning that when I’m bored with nothing to do with my time, I head to the casino. So I try to find something else to occupy my time with instead, like exercising or watching dramas or like visiting the dollar store ;)
 

byebye

sarNie OldFart
I like to play cards with my siblings with money but we never win big or lose big...there are times we walk away winning like $1 all night long. But I love it that way.

Growing up, I watched my dad gamble everything away. He would owed people money left and right and I never wanted that life...because it was no life at all. It's addicting and the next thing you know, you spend so much on a few hours of thrill.

I have been to Vegas 5 times and never have the desire to gamble there. I get so overwhelmed I literally have no idea where to start. But I guessed my dad taught me a very valuable lesson that gambling (when deep into it) is a grave hard to dig out.

I look for other ways to save and spend my money, like traveling. I rather explore the world then give it to a big casino helping them pay their electricity bill. You have to know what you want or value in life most. Is gambling worth it all in the end or is making memories with the money you have is more important? You ask yourself that and see what the answer is...good luck!
 
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