No i get what you are trying to say. I agree that the person have to want to change but like anything there will always have to be a reason for the change. People just dont wake up one day and say "i want to change" without a where, what, when, why, and most importantly for who. As for those "tame" a player, a relationship therapist once told me that there are 3 types (maybe more). One are those you are most likely talking about, the egos. Those type of girls who walks around with this high ego thinking and proclaiming they will tame a player. Those are the type that are just plain dumb and looking for pain. They go into the relationship with an agenda that is far from love. They just take take and take. Another types are those who knows what they are walking into but willing to give it a chance.a chance for the other person and most importantly, themselves. They are successful because they give and take. They go in with respects, respects for themselves and for the other party. They lay down the rules, they make the rules known. They take the time to learn about their partner. Third are the ones that goes in with blinders and hope. They just hope he change, hope he one day change after marriage, after a baby, after the second baby, they dont do anything but just.... hope. I dont know what type Matt is, im hoping the second.
Two celebrity players that i know who was able to "tame" their hubby were Nana and Pin (Jetrin's wife). Pin once gave an interview saying she laid down the rules from the getgo but she also continued to feed the marriage. Both husbands said they stop cus they found someone to stop for. They didnt go from wife to just mother of their child, they became both and thats the key. Husband too, be a husband, a father and a cheer support. Everytime i work with my geriatric patients who's been married 40+ years, they all say the same thing: work hard at it and always add spice to the marriage. Take care of your kids but also remember to take care of your spouse too(and thats for both).
Man I talk too much lol sorry but seems like no one really cares about the lakorn.