Newsflash, people change throughout life. Your wants, needs, and feelings are constantly changing in life. She didn’t waste his time, and he didn’t waste hers. They were happy for most of the relationship clearly if they were together for that long. But like I said, your feelings and wants change and clearly hers did towards the end of their relationship. If she wants to be selfish, she can be! There’s literally nothing wrong with being selfish and going after what makes you happy especially if it’s something as important as choosing your life partner. Why should she not live her life the way she wants. It’s better that she got out now before she married the poor guy and then decided she didn’t want to be with him anymore. Clearly they are both on good terms which means they both understand that the relationship just wasn’t for them anymore. You know i would probably understand your frustration if her ex was displaying behavior that indicates that she left him for money but he still treats her like a friend. You have fun living with that mindset that you can’t leave a relationship that makes you unhappy. It’ll just make you a bitter person in the end like @SuzieJ said. There’s a difference between unhappy moments in a relationship and then the whole relationship just being unhappy which clearly towards the end it was for both of them.she's unhappy because her ex doesn't have a lot of money haha...should've left many years ago instead of wasting his time like this. she couldn't work it out cuz he couldn't get enough money. yeah anything to do with money she's down right selfish. if you leave a relationship every time you're unhappy you'd get yourselves hundreds and thousands of husbands. that's just nasty.